Wednesday, 24 December 2008
We went to Br. Liew’s house for gathering with YWS for dinner and some fellowship.
Bagio prepared Satay for the dinner.
Maybe that explains why late Lady Di has Elton John, Julia Roberts has Rupert (in my best friend's wedding) .. Grace has Will (in TV series Will & Grace) .. .. it's not new.
It's just that some of us won't talk about it, or simply get away from gays like they're some kind of deadly disease ... Well, they're a human being, just like you and me and anybody else. I know, because some good friends of mine are ... gay. And although I also know that we don't always need to have gay friends to be great, and great is relative .. I just write this down because I'm thinking of them ..
Some of them admit it, but some are still hiding because of taboo, cultural and religious norms that can't accept the condition and condemn them as a sick-minded people.
From what I knew, they are "normal". They're just a man but with the sensibility of a woman. No wonder many of them become a singer, writer, a gallery owner or a home decorator .. maybe because they're born observers and many of them develop a good eye for beauty, people, style.
For all do respect to my beloved husband, of course I never hangout with them anymore. But they're still a part of my life, they're still my good friends.. and like what the writer said, "gay or straight, men are men. they know exactly what men really think. maybe your girlfriends offer sympathy when you're down and an extra blanket for you to feel warm, because they don't wan't to hurt your feelings, that's a noble intent .. but not always helpful and fix the problem" ..
She's still that person I knew long time ago despite all the changes in our lives. She's a real down-to-earth person that I envy for so many things since we're teens. She's also been living abroad for many years. She lived in Singapore a few years back for quite some times with her-then-husband and when they've finally moved back to Jakarta, they spilt up. She now has a dutch husband, they've been together for 5 years now but they still haven't got children, that's why she's thinking to adopt a child.
We talked about many things, about the past, our friends, family, what she's been up to now (she just moved to Penang from Shanghai) and looks like she enjoys it. She also talked about how the economic woes affecting the investors her husband works with and it gave a bit concern to them as they've just moved to new country for business expansion...
But when I asked her, do they have any plans to go back to our country, once again I heard my friend said .. "I don't think so" .. and she explained why, not the traffic jams, not the floods or the cost of living, schools, etc .. she concerns about "relationship" matter. Maybe because her marriage didn't work last time so she won't take the same road anymore. According to her, knowing how people live in Jakarta (and maybe most of big cities) threatening couples and family to break ..
Then I thought about some of my friends who got divorced .. but from what I knew, people split up for some reasons, and not always about "temptations" that leads to an unfaithful relationship .. From what I've learnt so far, a marriage is a long time commitment and it takes both people involved in it to work out. It takes two to make things work. Need an equal efforts, a lot of courage and struggle and patience.. to understand each other.
Well, in the end of our reunion, I wished her all the best in the future and hoping that we can keep in touch.
I have this handy book, a "guide" for important address and numbers for families who live in Singapore by The French Woman Association in Singapore (AFS). I could find almost everything, from schools, shops, doctors, dentists, birthday parties organizers, restaurants etc recommended by AFS and its members.
From the dentists list, there are several noted as "dame, douce avec les enfants" ( woman, gentle with children). so I picked one and I was very satisfied with my choice. She's really gentle and she gave treats to children (badge, tooth box, etc), no sweets f course .. sweets are bad for teeth, remember? ... and I would gladly recommend her to anyone who needs a dentist.
Arrived at home, Annisa ran to her room and put her baby tooth under the pillow and wished for the tooth fairy or a mouse will take her tooth and replace them with something ..
She heard the dentist said the tooth fairy will give her money (what a materialistic fairy she is..) but she also heard her friend said that mouse will replace them with a surprise gift ;-)
I said to Annisa to turn off the light in her room as fairies don't like bright lights.. and she also had to eat dinner first to give time for the fairy to prepare her surprise... and boy, how she ate well, she finished her dinner! and when her father came home around 8 pm, she hurried him to see what she got from the dentist: her badge, her box and her ... tooth! but .. she couldn't find them under the pillow! instead she found a package from the fairy .. she opened it and she jumped in joy!! a present from the tooth fairy!! a beautiful new skirt! ... she said loud and clear:
"mong, je veux casser les dents encore, comme ca je peux avoir encore des cadeaux!!" (mong, I want to loose my teeth again, so I could have more presents!!) ... hehehe ...
*ps: the tooth fairy lives in Braddel actually ... ;-D
He didn't get the chance to meet my kids, as they've all gone to bed at 10 pm last Sunday night, but he could see their pictures around the house and he got the idea that I'm all into my family now.
He suggested that we shouldn't think of moving back to home country, not at this time, he said. "Have you heard of child kidnapping at the malls?" .. he asked me, "it happened quite often now, not only at the malls, at home too .. while the parents went out to work and the kids were staying with their nanny, there's some cases that these nanny are also a criminal" ... I just nodded, imagined the horror.. and wished and pray that these things will never happen to us, oh God .. please help us.
I remember the poster I've seen near our place warning people that "LOW CRIME DOESN"T MEAN NO CRIME" .. and agree that we all must be really careful these days .. *sigh* .. I dream of living without fears when I was a kid, I rode bicycle alone every afternoon around the area where we're living in Jogjakarta. "Sagan" area, just near IKIP and Gadjah Mada University was my playground .. Going through rows of small streets, watching new students at the university gathered with all sorts of funny looking outfit every new school years began.. those days were gone.
Like AA told me, now his nieces and nephews all have nanny who would take them to school, wait for them during school hours, and wait for them outside the school gate to take them home. So when he asked me "who stay with your kids at school?" .. I'm a bit confused with his question at first, but I said "nobody" we rely on the school bus to take them there and bring them back, and we don't hire anybody to stay and watch our kids at school ... thankfully in Singapore these things are still possible ..
No matter where we are, Eid should always feel a special day to us. It is a day of forgiveness, moral victory, peace, fellowship, brotherhood and unity.
Yesterday was the second time we celebrate Eid in Singapore, and I must say it's better than when we're in France and Switzerland. Here, the Indonesian community is bigger.. and like they said, the more people get together the merrier.. :-)